Therapy Isn’t Just About the Copay
Most people think they know what therapy costs because they see a $30 copay on their insurance card. But that number is just the tip of the iceberg. If you’re paying for therapy over weeks or months, you could end up spending thousands - even with insurance. The real cost includes your deductible, coinsurance, session frequency, whether your therapist is in-network, and even your monthly premiums. Ignoring these pieces leads to surprise bills and financial stress.
Understanding Your Insurance Plan Type
Not all insurance plans work the same way. There are three main structures that determine how much you pay for therapy:
- Copay plans: You pay a fixed amount per session - say $30 - no matter what the actual cost of the session is. This is simple, but only kicks in after you meet your deductible.
- Deductible plans: You pay the full price of each therapy session until you’ve spent a set amount (your deductible) in a year. Only then does your insurance start helping.
- Coinsurance plans: After your deductible is met, you pay a percentage of the cost - often 20% to 40% - and your insurance covers the rest.
According to Thriveworks’ 2024 analysis of over 175,000 therapy sessions, the average session without insurance costs $143.26. But with insurance, your actual cost depends entirely on which of these three systems your plan uses. You can’t assume you’ll only pay the copay - especially early in the year.
How Deductibles Can Skyrocket Your Costs
Let’s say your therapist charges $125 per session and your deductible is $1,500. That means you pay $125 for every session until you’ve paid $1,500 out of pocket. That’s 12 full-price sessions before your insurance starts helping. If you’re seeing your therapist weekly, you’ll hit that deductible in just three months.
Many people don’t realize this until they’ve already paid $1,000 or more and wonder why their insurance “isn’t covering anything.” The truth is, it hasn’t kicked in yet. A $30 copay doesn’t mean you’re only paying $30 right away - it means you’ll pay $30 after you’ve already paid your deductible. For someone needing 20 sessions, that’s $1,500 in full-price payments before the copay even applies.
Coinsurance Can Be More Costly Than You Think
Coinsurance sounds fair - you pay 20%, insurance pays 80%. But here’s the catch: 20% of what? It’s not 20% of the $30 copay. It’s 20% of the allowed amount - the maximum your insurance agrees to pay for a session.
For example, your therapist bills $125 per session, but your insurance only allows $100 as the “reasonable” rate. After you meet your $3,000 deductible, you pay 20% of $100 = $20 per session. But if your therapist charges $200 (common for out-of-network providers), your insurance may still only allow $100. You’d pay $20 coinsurance, but you’d also owe the $100 difference unless your plan covers out-of-network balance billing.
Therapy and Beyond’s 2024 case study shows a patient with a $3,000 deductible and 20% coinsurance paid $8,400 total for $30,000 in therapy costs - because coinsurance applied to every session after the deductible, even if the total bill was huge. This is why long-term therapy can cost far more than expected.
In-Network vs. Out-of-Network: The Hidden Price Gap
Your therapist’s network status makes a huge difference. In-network providers have agreed to discounted rates with your insurer. Out-of-network providers don’t - so you pay more.
Alma’s 2023 data shows that for out-of-network therapy, patients typically pay 40-50% of the session cost after meeting their deductible. For in-network, it’s 20-30%. That’s a 20% difference in your out-of-pocket cost per session.
And location matters. In New York, the average therapy session costs $176. In North Dakota, it’s $227. So if you’re paying 30% coinsurance, you’re paying $53 in New York - but $68 in North Dakota. Same plan. Same percentage. Totally different bills.
What About Your Monthly Premiums?
People forget: your insurance premium is part of your total therapy cost. If you pay $300 a month for your plan, that’s $3,600 a year - regardless of whether you use therapy at all.
So if you pay $3,600 in premiums, plus $1,800 in therapy costs (deductible + copays), your total investment in therapy this year is $5,400. That’s not what your insurance card shows - but it’s what you’re actually spending.
The Out-of-Pocket Maximum: Your Safety Net
Every plan has a limit. In 2024, the maximum you can pay for in-network services is $9,350 for an individual plan and $18,700 for a family plan. Once you hit that, your insurance pays 100% for the rest of the year.
This is your financial ceiling. If you’re in therapy for a year and your total out-of-pocket costs (deductible + copays + coinsurance) reach $9,350, you won’t pay another dime for covered services. But remember - this cap only applies to in-network care. Out-of-network services may not count toward it at all.
Medicare and Medicaid: Different Rules
If you’re on Medicare, you pay 20% of the allowed amount after meeting your Part B deductible (which is $240 in 2024). That means a $143 session costs you about $28.65 - and Medicare covers the rest. But you still need a Medigap Plan G to cover that 20% - and that plan costs extra each month.
Medicaid usually has little to no copay for therapy. But availability and provider participation vary by state. Don’t assume you’ll find a therapist who accepts Medicaid - many don’t.
Sliding Scale and Low-Cost Options
Not everyone has insurance. Or if they do, their deductible is too high. That’s where alternatives come in.
Thriveworks reports that 42% of private therapists offer sliding scale fees based on income. That can cut your cost by 30-50%. Open Path Collective connects uninsured people with therapists who charge $40-$70 per session. University training clinics - staffed by supervised grad students - often charge 50-70% less than private practices.
These aren’t substitutes for insurance - they’re lifelines for people who can’t afford the system as it stands.
How to Build Your Real Therapy Budget
Here’s how to calculate your total cost step by step:
- Find your plan type: Check your insurance documents or call customer service. Ask: “Is my mental health coverage structured as copay, deductible, or coinsurance?”
- Confirm your deductible: How much do you need to pay before insurance helps? Does mental health have its own separate deductible?
- Ask about allowed amounts: What’s the max your insurance pays per session? This affects coinsurance.
- Estimate your sessions: Most people need 12-16 sessions for improvement. Complex cases (PTSD, depression) often need 15-20.
- Calculate Phase 1 (pre-deductible): Full session cost × number of sessions until deductible is met.
- Calculate Phase 2 (post-deductible): Copay or coinsurance × remaining sessions.
- Add premiums: Monthly cost × 12.
- Check the out-of-pocket maximum: Will you hit it? If yes, your total cost stops there.
Example: $125/session, $1,500 deductible, $40 copay, 20 sessions.
- Phase 1: 12 sessions × $125 = $1,500 (deductible met)
- Phase 2: 8 sessions × $40 = $320
- Total therapy cost: $1,820
- Plus $3,600 in premiums = $5,420 total annual cost
Pro Tips to Lower Your Costs
- Time your therapy: Start treatment early in the year so you can spread costs across two insurance years if needed.
- Combine services: If you’re seeing a doctor for migraines or diabetes, those visits count toward your mental health deductible too - if it’s the same plan.
- Use online tools: Alma’s Cost Estimator and Rula’s tool let you plug in your plan details and get real-time projections.
- Track everything: Keep a spreadsheet of each session, payment, and remaining deductible. 40% of patients are blindsided by costs because they never tracked them.
Final Thought: The Real Cost of Mental Health Care
Therapy is worth it - but it’s not cheap. The $30 copay is a mirage. The real cost is a combination of premiums, deductibles, session frequency, and network status. If you don’t plan for it, you’ll be stuck with bills you didn’t expect. Take 30 minutes now to call your insurer, ask the right questions, and map out your true costs. It’s the only way to avoid financial shock while getting the care you need.
Is the copay the only thing I pay for therapy?
No. The copay is just one part. You may also pay your full deductible before the copay applies, coinsurance after the deductible, and your monthly insurance premiums. All of these add up to your total cost.
What if I don’t meet my deductible?
If you don’t meet your deductible, you pay the full session rate for every therapy visit. Your insurance doesn’t contribute until you’ve spent the deductible amount. Many people pay hundreds or thousands before their copay even kicks in.
Does therapy with a sliding scale count toward my deductible?
No. Sliding scale fees are private payments, not billed through insurance. They don’t count toward your deductible or out-of-pocket maximum. But they can help you afford therapy when insurance isn’t enough.
Can I use my HSA or FSA for therapy?
Yes. Therapy is a qualified medical expense under both Health Savings Accounts (HSAs) and Flexible Spending Accounts (FSAs). You can use those funds to pay for copays, coinsurance, or full session fees - even if you haven’t met your deductible yet.
Why is out-of-network therapy so expensive?
Out-of-network therapists don’t have contracts with your insurer, so they can charge more. Your insurance will only reimburse you based on their “allowed amount,” which is often much lower than the therapist’s fee. You pay the difference - and you may still owe coinsurance after that.
How do I know if my therapist is in-network?
Call your insurance company and ask for a list of in-network mental health providers. You can also check your insurer’s website or ask your therapist directly. Don’t rely on Google or Yelp - network status changes often.
Can I switch therapists mid-year to save money?
Yes - but only if your new therapist is in-network and your plan allows changes. Switching might reset your deductible if you change insurance plans. But if you stay with the same plan, your deductible carries over. Talk to your insurer before switching.
13 Comments
Liv Loverso
26 November, 2025The $30 copay is a fucking lie sold to us by insurance companies who profit from our ignorance. You think you're getting help? You're just funding a machine that bills you $125/hour then calls it 'affordable'. I paid $8k last year for 18 sessions. My deductible was $5k. My premium was $300/month. The therapist got paid $100. I got PTSD from the invoice.
Steve Davis
28 November, 2025I just want to say... this post made me cry. Like, actual tears. I've been in therapy for 3 years and I still don't know if I'm paying coinsurance or just feeding the insurance dragon. I feel like I'm being emotionally drained AND financially drained. Can someone please explain this to me like I'm 5? I just want to feel better without going broke.
Attila Abraham
30 November, 2025lol you guys are overcomplicating this. Just use your HSA. Done. No drama. Stop making therapy a financial horror movie. Also start early in the year so your deductible resets. Easy peasy. You're welcome.
Michelle Machisa
1 December, 2025I was in the same boat last year. Called my insurer, asked about allowed amounts, found an in-network therapist who took sliding scale. Paid $45/session after deductible. Used my FSA. Total out of pocket: $2100. Not perfect, but survivable. You can do this. Track every payment. You're not alone.
Ronald Thibodeau
3 December, 2025Honestly this whole post is just basic financial literacy. If you don't know how your insurance works you deserve to get screwed. Also why are you seeing a therapist 20 times a year? Maybe you need to work on your coping skills instead of paying someone $125 to listen to you cry about your cat. Just saying.
Shawn Jason
4 December, 2025It's fascinating how we've turned mental health into a transactional commodity. The real cost isn't the coinsurance or deductible - it's the emotional labor of navigating a broken system while already in pain. We pay for care but are punished for needing it. Isn't that the ultimate irony? The system that claims to heal us demands we prove we're worthy of healing first.
Monika Wasylewska
6 December, 2025In India, therapy is mostly out of pocket. No insurance. No deductibles. Just pay what you can. Some therapists charge $10. Others charge $50. No paperwork. No confusion. Just human to human. Maybe we don't need all this bureaucracy to heal.
Jackie Burton
7 December, 2025This is all part of the Pharma-Insurance Complex™. They want you dependent. They want you paying monthly. They want you stuck in a cycle where you can't quit because you're too broke to stop. And the 'sliding scale'? A placebo. Most therapists who offer it are just too desperate to turn down cash. The real solution? Single-payer mental health. But they'll never let that happen.
Philip Crider
8 December, 2025I just found a therapist through Open Path for $50/session 🙌 I used my HSA 💸 and now I feel like I'm actually getting somewhere. Also my dog is happier now 🐶❤️ (and yes I cried in my first session. So what? It's okay to not be okay.)
Diana Sabillon
10 December, 2025I didn't know my deductible applied to therapy too. I thought it was just for hospital visits. I paid $1,200 before my first copay. I almost quit. I'm glad I didn't.
neville grimshaw
10 December, 2025Oh for god's sake, this is just basic economics. You're paying for a service. The fact you're shocked by the cost suggests you've been living under a rock. Also, why are you even using insurance? Just pay cash. It's cheaper. And stop making it so dramatic. Therapy isn't a luxury spa day.
Carl Gallagher
10 December, 2025I've been in therapy for five years now. I started with a $175/session out-of-network therapist. Hit my deductible in 11 sessions. Then switched to an in-network provider who charged $110 but my coinsurance was 30%. So I was still paying $33. Then I found a university clinic where I paid $35. I've been there for two years. The difference in my mental health? Night and day. The difference in my bank account? Also night and day. Don't give up. Keep searching. There are options. Just not the ones the insurance companies want you to see.
Attila Abraham
12 December, 2025Also if you're on Medicare, don't forget to get that Medigap Plan G. Otherwise you're still paying 20%. And yeah, that plan costs extra. But it's worth it. Trust me. I learned this the hard way.